Julie always knew she wanted to be a mom. It was a dream she held close, even when life didn't follow the traditional path. When her relationship didn't work out, she didn’t let that deter her from her ultimate goal. With the unwavering support of her parents, she embarked on the journey of becoming a single mother by choice—a decision that led to the arrival of her beautiful 8-month-old daughter, Emma.
Julie's journey wasn’t without its challenges. Her initial experiences with a fertility clinic left her feeling uneasy, burdened by bad energy and early jitters. But everything changed when she found OC Fertility + OC Biogenix.
From the moment she walked into OC Fertility + OC Biogenix, Julie felt a sense of calm and reassurance. Her first appointment was nerve-wracking, but those nerves quickly faded as she was welcomed with open arms by the compassionate and professional team. The staff made her feel at home, and Dr. Moayeri, in particular, stood out. Julie appreciated the way Dr. Moayeri took her time, answered all her questions, and ensured that she never felt rushed at each step of the process.
Julie was also comforted by the fact that there was no pressure to make a hasty decision. She was always given the option to freeze her eggs and wait or to move forward when she felt ready. This thoughtful approach allowed Julie to make the right decision with confidence, and she knew she was in the best possible hands.
Choosing to undergo IVF as a single mother by choice was both empowering and daunting. Julie remembers the shots being intimidating, especially the timing, but she soon realized they weren't as bad as she had anticipated. Despite the occasional doubts and skepticism from friends—some of whom questioned whether she was making her life harder in the search for a partner—Julie remained steadfast in her decision. She knew that life was too short to wait for the "perfect" circumstances. Her dream of becoming a mother was one she was determined to make come true.
Julie’s parents were her rock throughout the process. Their unwavering support made her journey so much easier, and she is deeply grateful for everything they did to help her along the way. She acknowledges that it truly does take a village, and she encourages other single mothers by choice not to be afraid to ask for help. "No one should be afraid to ask for help," she says. "It truly does take a village."
Julie has some heartfelt advice for other women considering the path of becoming a single mother by choice: "It's going to be hard, but it's so worth it. The hardest track leads to the most beautiful destinations. Keep going. The hard times will pass. Life is too short; make your own dream come true."
She also reflects on the freedom that comes with making this choice—there’s no pressure to find someone in the long run, just the satisfaction of fulfilling her dream of motherhood.
Becoming a mother has changed Julie for the better. She's more organized, more family-focused, and feels a deep sense of calm and peace in her life. "The only downfall," she jokes, "is that my jeans don't fit anymore." But that’s a small price to pay for the profound joy and fulfillment that Emma brings into her life.
Julie's journey to motherhood may not have followed the traditional route, but it’s one that has brought her immeasurable happiness and personal growth. Her story is a testament to the power of determination, the importance of support, and the beauty of making your own dreams come true—on your own terms.
Single motherhood by choice is a path of bravery and love. It is a testament to the power of a woman’s determination to create a nurturing and fulfilling life for herself and her child. While it comes with its own unique set of challenges, the joys and rewards of single motherhood are immeasurable. Society is evolving to embrace diverse family structures, and single mothers by choice are at the forefront, proving that love and strength can build beautiful families.
If you are considering pursing single motherhood by choice, we welcome you with open arms at OC Fertility + OC Biogenix and look forward to helping you on your family building journey. Set up your initial consultation today to learn more about the process and how we can support you along the way.
